Tickets: £36 General Admission / £25 Zoom Ticket / Limited number of Free Hearth Members Tickets
How we learn to love. And what to do about it.
Just because you know what your attachment style is, doesn’t mean it’s going to change anything for you in dating and love.
Knowledge is a powerful agent for change when acted upon.
In this workshop you’ll not only learn about your main attachment style (how you behave as you come closer to another in dating and relationships), you’ll also walk away with practices and tools that will help you to make love feel better and easier.
And how to let love in in a way that feels healthy, safe and exciting.
This workshop is for you if you…
Keep on repeating the same patterns or attract the same types of (unhealthy) people in dating and relationships and want to understand why.
Find it difficult to negotiate your different needs for alone time in a relationship. There’s a complete mismatch in how much time solo you both want and need and don’t know what to do about it.
Are familiar with your attachment style – after all, attachment theory is all the rage – but you don’t know what to do to shift into the golden space of ‘secure attachment’.
Feel like you yo-yo between avoidant and anxious attachment styles depending on the person and / or situation you’re in. Are done with getting dizzy from it all and want to feel stable and sure in yourself, in dating and relationships.
Are new to all of this and are curious about understanding more about your own unique way of loving. What healthy intimacy means for you. And how to live that whether you are dating, new in love, or have a long-term partner.
What you’ll learn
The 4 main attachment styles
How they are formed early in life
The behaviours of each in relationships and dating that result and that keep us from experiencing healthy love
How to shift into a secure attachment style – body, heart, mind and soul – and stay there
You can join us in person or via Zoom.
Can't make it live? Sign up for a Zoom ticket and catch the recording.
My experience
“What do you mean I’m avoidant…I’d do ANYTHING…for a relationship right now.
Avoiding one is the last thing I’m doing, it’s just that…”
And herein would begin the looooooong list of reasons why it was so hard to find love, the right kind of love.
From…There just aren’t that many single guys my age out there anymore.
To a list of expectations that a potential partner have x, y and z all in place when he first appears in front of me, otherwise I’m not going to waste my time on another dead-end date.
The actual reasons why I was single for so many years sat much deeper within me. And learning about my main attachment style was like a wake-up call to it.
Turns out that it all wasn’t so black and white, however.
Because the minute someone ticked a good number of my boxes and showed a possible interest in me, this love ‘avoidant’ shifted swiftly over into the ‘anxious attacher’ mode.
I’d begin to ask myself an incessant stream of questions like:
Would he call again? Would there be a second date? What if he moved back to…what if I moved back to…what if it worked out…what if it didn’t.
Sound familiar?
Turns out many of us exhibit a mash-up of styles when it comes to love.
In order to move beyond the limiting behaviours of the less-than-desirable attachment styles, we need to re-wire our minds, take good care of our hearts, and remind our bodies it’s going to be alright – we will not only survive love, we’ll thrive in it.
I’m Andrea Balboni, a recovering avoidant (who’s also sometimes an anxious attacher…and perhaps also a bit of a disorganised attacher) and a certified Sex Love and Relationship Coach and founder of Lush Coaching.
I help smart successful heart-centered women experience as much pleasure and fulfilment in their personal intimate lives as they do in their professional lives. From finding real love naturally and easily, to keeping it alive over the long-term, I support women in all phases of love and relationship.
Programme
Doors open and drinks @6:30- 7:00pm
Workshop begins @ 7:00-9:00pm
About Andrea Balboni
Andrea Balboni is a certified Sex Love and Relationship Coach and founder of Lush Coaching. She helps smart, successful, purpose-driven women experience as much confidence, pleasure and fulfillment in their personal lives as they do in their professional lives.
She has contributed to publications such as the BBC, The Independent and the Metro. And has spoken at private professional clubs like The Merit Club, The Allbright and Home House in London, UK.
Before becoming a transformational coach, Andrea led creative digital teams in Fortune 500 companies and start-ups across industries and continents for 20 years.